Business Behavior Creates Health Problems

Work and health. These two topics are this century's biggest concerns. In fact, they're so interrelated these days that you'd be hard pressed to find people who work without concern for their health. And I'm not just talking about physical health, but mental and emotional health as well. Along with increasing rates of obesity, this country is also experiencing increasing rates of depression, apathy, and detachment from family, friends, and life itself. Suicides are at an all time high, violence is in an upsurge (if you watch the news, anyway), and people are becoming more self absorbed and concerned for their welfare than they are for their children.

What is the reason this is happening? It is the relationship we have in this country between our health and our work behaviors. Both systems have foundations in the old 19th century industrial work ethic and mentality. What we seem to miss is that by keeping the assumptions and beliefs of our forefathers in regards to work and health, we will not be able to change either the health care system or how we work. What are these assumptions and beliefs?

Here is an incomplete list:

-working 9 to 5(or 6) Monday through Friday for 40 years or more is how we always work, despite the changes in our world concerning doing work and business via new technology
-adhering to an agrarian educational system (children go to school from fall to spring with summers off)
-working longer hours produces better results than working shorter hours
-using managers as vehicles to control the mass of employees who are obviously not competent, need ideas and plans and behaviors given to them from above, have no lives of their own, and are not trustworthy
-physical health can be separated from mental and emotional health
-time equals money
-high levels of stress do not contribute to health problems
-work is more important than anything else in life which includes family, friends, hobbies, passions, creativity, imagination, rest, sleep, health, nature, and sports
-our health care system is the best one in the world
-our health care system really is a health care system rather than a pill and repair location for the body

These assumptions are basic to how our work and health behaviors work. Work in America is the number one activity we all engage in. Despite our complaints about wanting a life or being healthy or being free, work is what we all do. Work is the identity of America. Not freedom, not liberty, not basic civil rights, not prosperity or wealth. Work is how we all learn about each other and despite this, we all complain about work because none of us really want to do it. This creates a conflict between our emotions and our behaviors. Our behaviors stem from our flawed beliefs and assumptions about what work does for us, while our emotions dictate what we would really like. And despite the current saying that emotions dictate behavior, it's actually the other way around. Our behaviors dictate our emotions.

Think about this. Anytime you want to go to do something, whether it's watching a movie, hanging out with friends or family, playing with your dog, or taking a nice and casual walk in the middle of the day, we can't. The thing we want to do the most is relegated to secondary importance because work is considered priority. Who's priority? The company you either work for or your own business. And although we have tons and tons of time management courses and gurus, this way of living is getting worse and worse.

We've all read or heard that we must take time for the most important things in our lives, with health being number one. We can see that this will not work if we continue to believe the above beliefs and assumptions. We must replace these beliefs/assumptions with more empowering ones that will allow us to easily live lives of balance.

Which leads to a question about health. What is health? Is it being able to move like you did when you were 20? Or being able to creatively come up enough ideas to change the world? Or is it being able to enjoy the life you've been given each and every single day? The answer is that health encompasses our entire life. It means being able to live a life where you can be creative, in control, and minimize physical, mental, and emotional suffering until the very end of your life. It means following your heart's desires and still retain the maturity and wisdom gained from past experience. It means being able to keep up with your kids when at the park. It means achieving the dreams you've always wanted to achieve. Health is the totality of life. Without health in any given moment, your life is not up to its potential.

Our work behaviors decrease our health potential. By believing work only gets done between certain hours on particular days or in particular ways, our health suffers. By believing that we should work for a company that says it has your best interests at work but really doesn't is a fool's task. Believing our work or health care system helps make America superior in the global environment is false, but it certainly produces illness and disease here in this great country. So, what are the new empowering beliefs and assumptions we "should" have?

-Work to get work done only when it needs to be done. If it's not an emergency or a real priority relegate it according to your own to do list for the day
-The results of work should be productive and that's all it should be based on, not the time you needed to get it done.
-Health is life. Without following our dreams or passions, being creative, getting enough sleep or rest, or doing activities we really enjoy, life can be an empty shell filled only with work.
-Work is fourth to family, friends, and passions
-Trust. Trust in yourself and trust others. If you are an adult, you should realize that other adults can be just as trustworthy as you when work needs to get done
-Play should be 80% of your life while work should be 20%
-Consistently repeat these beliefs to yourself each day in order to reap lifetime benefits

This is how health can be increased work behaviors changed. This is not easy, but it is a simple way of changing the way we do business and live our lives. If you have any questions, comments please let me know at my e-mail address. Thanks.

The Incredible Transition of the Movement

School children today may wonder: why did the White South make there be the four different restrooms, one for each combination of people? Well, it did make four "water closets" available, two apiece for each sex, which admittedly allowed for somewhat easier restroom availability. But it also undermined the dignity of the American Deep South, which was swiftly moving from the lack of fair human rights to the promotion of greater civil rights, and eventually to manifesting independent living rights. After all, the involved country was America, and being a democracy, it couldn't long maintain such hostile acts of racial segregation - or discrimination against the physically disabled, challenged, or handicapped.

You could say that America from the 1940s through the 1980s were a time of incredible transition when it came to the full legal rights of American citizens, which included a change of focus from the racially oriented Civil Rights Movement to the ability oriented Independent Living Movement. As differing ethnic minorities received their full legal and human rights, the focus began to change when it came to what was considered to be politically expedient for different types of people.

For one thing, in the 1960s, changing racially segregated public restrooms back to the usual men's and women's ones was considered to be politically important, and this led to the changes in restroom stalls in the 1980s that encompassed wheelchair accessibility. This sort of thing, along with the Deep South's municipal bus boycotts, such as the Montgomery, Alabama bus boycott led by the Rev. Dr. Martin Luther King, Jr., was to enable "colored" people to get away from unnecessary referencing to skin color, and it also led to the placing of proper wheelchair lifts onto buses for the sake of the physically disabled, to enable them to finally ride the city buses. Nowadays, you can ride in your electric wheelchair in a special slot on the bus, or transfer out of your manual wheelchair and into a seat.

Uniting the public restrooms enabled people to continue their normal way of life, unhampered by racism or any presumed "need" for such segregated facilities. Plus, there was the further needed transition of the municipal city buses, where black people had been forced to sit in the far backs of the buses. As with the public restrooms, there was no need for such isolation, which at the time was being corrected by the acting Civil Rights Movement, headed by the Rev. Dr. Martin Luther King, Jr., so that people could use most public facilities without suffering from further racial segregation. And as stated, this led to the further revamping of public facilities to make them wheelchair and disabled accessible, including full accessibility for the blind, the deaf, the elderly, the mentally challenged, and other such needed transitions.

Earlier work by the Civil Rights Movement had clearly led to these other needed transitions being made, several years later. Causing the first series of changes had obviously led to the next series of changes. The Movement had tackled universal public transportation and public access to facilities, which were also in a state of becoming more available in general as public transportation and facilities increased in number and diversity markedly over time, broadening the scope of the American service horizon.

It was thus seen that public transportation via racial segregation wasn't required in America, and neither were racially segregated public restrooms. However, years later in the 1980s, it turned out that the people who actually needed any such "specialty" restrooms were the physically disabled. They needed special, more copious interior stalls with grab bars within them, not unduly physically segregated restrooms. The needed incredible transition was from civil rights for different racial groups to independent living rights for the disabled and the physically challenged.

It wasn't altogether that "incredible" - when you think about it. The needed transition was for some of the restroom stalls to become wider - affording more ease and room for less ungainly wheelchair transfers. The disabled needed more room, sturdy grab bars to help them transfer, and large signs outside on the doors with the blue and white wheelchair access logos - and also Braille worded signs, such as those in front of elevators and outside rooms - for the sake of blind people as well.

And there only needed to be one "handicapped" larger stall available per restroom, not ability segregated restrooms. Although this had been proposed, it was not brought into practice - as the racial segregation that had occurred years before caused reconsideration of such segregation per ability, as well as it simply not being needed for public use of these facilities. The degree of influence of one movement upon the other is arguable, but the similarities between the two movements were more than coincidental, as both clearly involved basic legal and civil human rights.

It had actually been the paramount issues of universal wheelchair access and the universal integration of disabled access into buildings, public accommodations and housing which constituted the needed "incredible transition" from one movement to the other, as there had never been any verifiable need for racial segregation of public facilities and transportation. Instead, wheelchair and disabled access came to the forefront as issues that have become important worldwide since the 1980s, as verifiable human needs that required redress, not only as social issues that involved bigotry and discrimination, but physical access to property as well.

As a nurse aide for the disabled, I used to help people transfer from their wheelchairs to the toilets and back in public restrooms. It was part of my job. Due to moderate learning disabilities, my other everyday work skills tend to be poor. I can't really handle waitressing, for example. But I've done great at writing and editing professionally for a career, and helping people in wheelchairs get through daily obstacles has been easy for me.

Wheelchair riding "shut ins" used to mostly stay home. They had nowhere they could go having wide enough doorways, smooth ramps into buildings or across roadways, prominent signs of universal wheelchair use, or major areas flat enough for wheelchair access. Even elevators took awhile to be added to most public buildings. For example, it took several decades for America's universities to become wheelchair accessible, not to mention other buildings such as hotels, hospitals, restaurants, etc.Added over many years, interior elevators within buildings greatly helped. Nowadays, you also see flat, wide wheelchair ramps everywhere. This makes life easier for all kinds of people, including those using crutches, canes, walkers, baby strollers and bicycles. It's really quite wonderful.

Exterior concrete stairways were once a large part of what kept people out of many buildings, rendering them unable to go in. The 1970s were not a "Stairway to Heaven" for most people with physical disabilities, and exterior stairways into buildings were a major hassle. But we're learning, and now we have long exterior tiered concrete ramps laid out in a "switchback" manner, enabling disabled entry to most public buildings. Nowadays you can go to college and attend all your classes, thanks to disabled access such as ramps, elevators and note takers for the blind.

Meanwhile, "colored" and "white" colleges have also been opening their doors to each other, as the USA and the free world begins a phase of politics which we're still entering, one where you might get to go exactly where you please, and do whatever you want to do - within reason. But the days of yore, where you couldn't always do so, were intriguing in their own way, although I'm glad those days are almost entirely gone.

Weirdly enough, there were a few good events, fantastical as it may seem, that happened under the loosening ties of racial segregation. For example, there were great "colored" ball teams, and also some well run and hospitably owned "colored" managed hotels and motels. They hired black workers, which occasionally involved better work situations than similar white run positions. This was unfortunate, as black people weren't allowed to stay in or work at the white people hotels and motels.Having to contemplate the meanings of the word "colored" and "black" was also involved as a social issue for certain famous such people, who promoted civil rights as their primary political cause. Colorful and lively is what they were often forced to become, in order to help their kind of people become more welcome in American society as they sojourned away from black and white racial segregation. The arts, music and theater gained from the addition of remarkable talent from these hallmarks of American and world society, who felt they had to prove themselves in a world which was capable of killing, hampering or incarcerating people solely due to their skin color not being "white."

Racial segregation was definitely the road to extreme enforced injustice as the only alternative for not granting people their full civil, legal and human rights, so these culturally important people, Americans - such as Malcolm X and Rev. Dr. Martin Luther King, Jr., among many others - wanted to make sure their attainments were not in vain, and that they taught people racial equality was real and not merely a "dream." They wanted to make this "incredible transition" happen, which came to pass also through the disability rights movement and wheelchair accessibility, and to change the basically "white" people image of overall American society.

Internment, concentration - and finally death - camps are the strongest and most likely images I come up with when I reflect on how things would have ended up under continuing American racial segregation in the Deep South. Curfews, separate areas of town to live in, and enforced places to go at restaurants, restrooms and theaters imply the kind of incarceration that leads to actual internment, concentration and even death camps, such as the huge ones instituted by the Nazis, the Chinese and the Russians.

What ridiculous, gigantic monstrosities have gone worldwide since the "shackles" of such depravity were rooted in the originally enforced life on our Native American "Indian" reservations? Hitler blamed the Nazi concentration camps on those isolate places, although supposedly they were also styled after Joseph Stalin's similar Russian camps in the Ukraine and Siberia. Horrifyingly, there seems now to be a major internment camp, possibly for the mentally disabled, being built - or which is now completed - in America's own State of Alaska, and there are similar internment camps in outlying areas of the United States as well. The Hurricane Katrina victims have been placed into similar camps, which brings up newer issues of racial segregation again - as many of that awful hurricane's victims were once black or colored residents of New Orleans, Louisiana - the USA.

Overt racial cleansing has swelled out from our country and others in many a secretively torturous way. And it has not been so long since black people here in America were forced to sit in the back of city buses. Recently, a white school bus driver tried to illegally force black children to once again sit in the backs of school buses. Fortunately, he was caught and stopped before this tactic became widespread. But many decades ago, it took the Civil Rights Movement to get black people out of the backs of those buses, where they were being forced to sit against their will, giving up their chosen seats to white people.

Nobody likes to sit in the back of the bus forever. It was one of the better strategic moves in American history to end that. Some folks want to "keep on trucking" and serve humanity in similar ways, working jobs that involve helping others. But many of these great careers require major university degrees, which as you know can be difficult to pay for nowadays. Wouldn't it be wonderful to get such a job with only a high school diploma?

Say, would you like a job that involves no prior experience? It doesn't pay too well, maybe enough to get by. It's called being a "personal care attendant" for the disabled, and I've been one for black, brown and white people. You don't have to be a trained nurse, and open positions are listed under Home Health Care in the newspapers. If you take this job, which often only involves part time work, you may also experience the salutary effect of enjoying working for the civil rights of people with disabilities. You may also get free meals and a roof over your head by working this job. But without the proper implementation of universal wheelchair access, you won't be able to get out much and enjoy life to the fullest.

Therefore, I want to help get the word out with this article about municipal buses and other such needed vehicles being outfitted with reasonably made wheelchair lifts. This involves various programs and accessibility issues - happening all over the modern world. Those white, black and brown people (upholding their full legal and civil rights - regardless of skin color or other personal characteristics) in manual and electric wheelchairs, and other such vehicles of personal conveyance such as scooters and gurneys, need to be able to get on buses and other public transportation, like trains, boats and ships, and airplanes, not to mention their also needing to be able to freely access wheelchair access compliant parking spaces, hotel rooms, apartments, houses, other buildings, restrooms, etc.

Basically, total wheelchair access is the modern goal of the Movement nowadays, now that the transition has been made from civil rights to disability rights. Rather than ending civil rights, it simply expands them. Hopefully, someday wheelchair access will be made part of the standard legal building codes of houses everywhere on the face of the planet. And nearly everywhere you park now, you see the sign for wheelchair access in many parking spaces, plus wheelchair ramps available on nearly every street corner and around the front access of all public buildings. Sooner or later, if we live long enough we will all be physically disabled, no matter our skin color or other characteristics, due to old age and its subsequent debilitation. Thus we will all need the incredible transition from the Civil Rights Movement to the Independent Living Movement, with both movements covering as much as possible of the full scope of our American and worldwide legal, civil and human rights - no matter whom we might ever actually be, or finally ever eventually become.

Women and Sexual Health

Good sexual health isn't just about sexual intercourse. Women should know that sexual health encompasses many other aspects like understanding how your body works, knowing what turns you on and what puts you off, accepting your sexual desires and sexual orientation, choosing a form of sexual expression that you are comfortable with, and knowing how to protect yourself from sexually transmitted diseases (STD s) and unwanted pregnancies.

Women should understand that sexual health begins with accepting your sexuality. Our earliest perceptions of sex are inculcated in childhood by our parents' and society's attitude towards it. Until recently, talking about sex was taboo. So, children, especially females perceive that sex is not a good thing. They hear the disapproving voices discussing homosexuality and they subconsciously register that as well. These false ideas infiltrate into adulthood and can be a mental hurdle to good sexual health. It could lead to feelings of shame or guilt when indulging in sexual activities, a reluctance to fully explore sexual potential, or a negative approach to sex. Your sexuality is an integral part of who you are. By accepting your desires, women can positively enhance their sexual experiences and create a healthier self-image.

As a women and an individual, you should never indulge in anything you are uncomfortable with, especially when it comes to sex. Putting up with sexual activities that hurt, embarrass or humiliate is just plain wrong. If you know what you want from a sexual relationship, and you understand what excites you and gives you pleasure and what doesn't, it empowers you to control your sexuality and choose a form of sexual expression that you are comfortable with.

Good sexual health also means protecting yourself from sexually transmitted diseases (STD s). Women can talk to a trusted gynecologist regarding any fear, doubts and inhibitions they may have. Learning about the various types of STDs and how to prevent them, knowing how to determine if you have one, and what to do if you are infected, is a very important aspect of sexual health. Women should have complete knowledge about STD's to prevent them from any heath risk.

Sexual health is as important as physical or mental well-being. Women can better the quality of their life by fully exploring and understanding their sexuality.

We Couldn't Have Children - And So We Adopted

Certainly it started 'simply' enough, with the decision that it was time to start a family. We were ready emotionally and financially, and secure enough in our marriage and our love to have plenty of space to share - our hearts and our lives.

Nonetheless, we had much to learn... like how to -

  • Remain patient as the endless, painful months passed by with no result
  • Stay optimistic, month after unsuccessful month, as hopes were dashed, time and time again
  • Retain sanity when the mind tricks the body into a 'mock' pregnancy for a brief period (for days... and now and then, even several weeks)
  • Continue to knit and crochet all the tiny, intricately patterned and detailed baby clothes and rugs, with no precious bundle to wrap inside.
  • Cope with the interminable testing and experimentation that were medically required to answer potentially problematic questions.
  • Answer civilly (and cheerfully) the insensitive questions asked many times -

"aren't you two ever going to start a family?", and

"don't you want to have children?", and

"there are more important things in life than making lots of money... you

know?", etc. etc.

AND decisions to make -

  • Continuing even more intensive and intrusive investigation of our failure? We chose not.
  • Artificial Insemination? Tricky, in those days. We chose not.
  • IVF was not yet even a viable option - still firmly in the 'experimental' stage - and rarely successful. We did not see ourselves as 'guinea pigs'.
  • Remain childless? We chose not.
  • Regulated and prescribed sex because 'the time is ideal... NOW' Well-ll-ll... Nope! (without spontaneity, what is Love?)
  • Adoption? Yes - because that felt fair to both of us.

And now it was time for acceptance... of further -

  • Questions and more paperwork and investigation and more questions... and waiting.
  • Waiting... and proof of health and wealth - of marriage - of living standards.
  • Waiting... and proving over and over why we wanted children/how we would function as a family/how we would face problems as they would arise/why we had chosen not to make any of the other choices - and all of this repeated over and over many times to different 'experts'.
  • Waiting... for a new-born baby for several years and then finally and painfully making a different choice.

We carefully and thoroughly investigated the ramifications of adopting a 'special needs' child. This 'category' encompassed children with physical, mental or emotional disabilities. Being farmers and living far from specialized medical expertise, we discounted the first two and concentrated on 'emotional' disability. We believed we could cope - and we were reassured by the Government adoption authority that advice, support and direction would be fully available to us.

Over the next 3½ years, we adopted three 'special needs' children - all emotionally damaged from being placed 'into care' by their genetic mothers - months (even more than 4 years) after their respective births. Oh yes... and the promised Government support, etc... well-ll-ll... it was like most of their promises, wasn't it? Nothing there when the needs presented - and we were left to battle on alone. And all those precious little 'hand-knits'? All given away to family, friends, charity.

Despite the odds, we had supreme belief that Love and security could conquer all... that the emotional pain of our 'babes in the woods' would slowly ease, like a fading scar. For many years, that's how our little family seemed to be unfolding - and like a butterfly - emerging and developing.

I wish I could tell you about a fairy-tale ending - but Life rarely 'pans out' like that, unfortunately. What I can tell you is that three adults are alive today - partners and parents themselves now - and all believed to be as happy and successful as they choose to be. We know first-hand that this is true of the one we still share our lives with - and one precious and beautiful grandchild - both gracious recipients of our continuing love and devotion.

The pain of this loss has been intense - but finally, these two who are missing from our lives have brought us to our greatest and most important acceptance - that others come into your Life -

"... For a reason,

A season,

Or Forever."

We believe the reason was their need, the season was their 'growing up', and the forever is in our hearts and memories... maybe theirs, too... sometimes.

Christine

Childrens Cerebral Palsy

Cerebral palsy (CP) is one of the most common congenital disorders. Congenital is a term used to mean "present from birth". CP is not just one disorder, but encompasses a number of neurological disorders.

CP often occurs before birth or during birth, or may occur during the first 3-5 years of life. Symptoms may appear in infancy or in early childhood, and are generally apparent by age three. CP does not worsen over time, but its effects may manifest themselves in different ways as an individual gets older. CP permanently affects body movement and muscle coordination.

Causes

Cerebral palsy is caused by abnormalities in the part of the brain that controls muscle coordination and movement. Damage to this part of the brain can occur in utero, as the baby develops, or as a consequence of birth.

It can also be caused by early trauma, such as a fall or as the result of an accident. It may also be caused by infection, such as meningitis or encephalitis.

Symptoms

One of the first signs of CP may be developmental delay, or failure to meet an expected milestone at a certain age. For example, the ability to walk unassisted may be delayed, causing a parent or physician to become concerned.

Symptoms may be very mild or severe, and may mean very little impairment or lifelong disability. Some of the symptoms that children might experience include:

- Tight or stiff muscles
- Exaggerated reflexes (spasticity)
- Lack of muscle coordination with voluntary movement (ataxia)
- Walking with one foot or leg dragging behind
- Walking forward on the toes
- Muscle tone which is too stiff or too floppy
- Loss of bladder or bowel control
- Vision, speech, or hearing disturbances
- Learning impairment
- Difficulty swallowing (dysphagia)

Types

There are three main types of cerebral palsy, classified according to typical movement disorder involved:

1. Spastic-causes muscle stiffness and difficulty in movement 2. Athetoid-results in uncontrolled or involuntary movement 3. Ataxic-causes disturbed balance and depth perception

Diagnosis

A delay in reaching expected developmental milestones is generally noted in children with cerebral palsy. Children with CP may also have poor muscle tone and poorly coordinated movements. Additionally, there may be persistence of infant reflexes beyond the time frame in which they should have disappeared.

Treatment

There is no cure for cerebral palsy. Treatment begins immediately upon diagnosis, and may include several health care professionals, such as a pediatrician, a neurologist, a physical therapist, an occupational therapist, and a speech therapist.

Treatment is ongoing and focuses on assisting the child with cerebral palsy to function at the highest level possible. Braces, wheelchairs, and walkers may be used to assist in mobilizing as needed. Medications may be prescribed which will decrease muscle spasm, prevent seizures, and alleviate any pain if present.